So what are parents to do? Revisit their approach to bedtime. Communicate to the child that there are going to be some changes. Teach the child that the new routine will be a scheduled bedtime preceded by a bath and book. Warm baths calm their nervous system and help the child relax. The book allows for some parent/child bonding and snuggle time. Then it should be lights out, with the understanding that the child is not to get out of bed until morning. If the child tantrums, it will take about two weeks of staying STRONG and calmly repeating the pattern to firmly establish it. Each time the child gets up, a non emotional and non communicative parent, places the child back in bed. An older child may require positive reinforcement such as a special outing or reward earned when he/she stays in bed all night for an agreed upon period of time. But the understanding must be that there is no going back to the old, bad habits. Older children have had years of practice manipulating their parents. So for this to work, the parent must stay strong and NOT negotiate. It is in the long term interest of the child to learn to calm themselves and sleep in their own space. And putting a television in the child's room should NEVER be an option. Television offers no redeeming benefits to children of any age when it is being watched in place of sleep.
When the going get tough, keep the long term benefits in mind. Your child will be healthier, happier, more alert, and able to cope with quality sleep. These benefits far outweigh the short term annoyance of dealing with an unhappy child. Your job is to parent, and good parenting means making your child unhappy at times, for their own good.
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