Parenting Blog that incorporates the ideas and techniques of Parenting Expert and Author, Dawn Lantero
Tuesday, March 25, 2014
Four tips for Parenting 3-year Olds
Here are my tried and true tips for successfully parenting a three year old terror.
1. Change your attitude!: Why would this be the first tip? Because often times, in parenting, we get ourselves all wrapped up in what is going wrong and forget to look at what is going right. With an attitude adjustment of our own, our three year old doesn't seem to be Satan's spawn anymore. Three year olds are intensely curious. They delight in learning new things. So if you look at your little one through a rose colored lens, and find joy in his/her zeal for life. The behavior blips don't seem quite as annoying.
2. Be Battle Ready: Two year olds will have moments of defiance. But defiance can quickly can dissolve into tears and a quick scoop up for a hug or lighting fast diversion technique can leave them giggling in the next split second. Three year olds are ready to go toe to toe to get their way. They have learned new techniques to argue and whine and push your buttons. Revel in their amazing capabilities, (see tip #1) but stand ready to keep your backbone in tact and lay down the law. Remember they are listening and watching EVERYTHING that you say and do. So only say what you mean.--and then stand ready to enforce it. If you tell them that you are leaving the park in 5 minutes, call them in 5 minutes and leave the park. If you say that you will play with them after you fold the laundry, get on the floor and play with them after you fold the laundry. By CONSISTENTLY doing what you say you are going to do, you are helping them build trust in you and respect your authority.
3. Boredom is unacceptable: Three year olds crave action and stimulation. They need to be played with, read to, talked to, and cuddled. They want attention. They "get into things" when they are bored and lacking stimulation. Three year olds are a full time job. Recognize this and revel in this. They grow up so fast and these precious days filled with simple pleasures will become a treasure in your memory bank.
4. Good Parenting Begins Early: The sooner you figure out how to combine being the authority in your children's lives with being the loving, nurturing presence to them, the better! You will laying the ground work for a successful family life. Little children crave limits just as teenagers do. A strong bond and working relationship with your toddler, translates into a child who understands self control and respects you as an authority in his/her life. These skills will prove invaluable in the years to come. So don't be discouraged by the difficulty your three year old creates from time to time. Remember to count it as a blessing for growth, and an opportunity for you to strengthen those ever important parenting skills.
5. Remember to Take A Break: Good parents spend some time away from their little ones, in order to recharge their batteries. This is necessary and important. You will be a better parent if you see to your own needs in addition to your children's needs. So call grandma or your neighborhood sitter and plan some time for yourself.
Tuesday, March 18, 2014
Six Ways to Teach Children About Beauty
The media is guilty of pushing certain ideas about beauty upon all of us. Our impressionable children are influenced by these airbrushed, retouched, ridiculously unrealistic images of what beauty is. Recently, shocking photos of teenage models featured in an advertisement for Target Retail Stores were mistakenly run when the editing of the size of their thighs and arms were obviously altered.
What does this say about our culture? We are obsessed with certain unhealthy beauty concepts and this negatively affects all of us. Why else would we feel the need to shoot up our faces with Botox, fill our lips with collagen, and endure surgeries that promise to make us appear younger and thinner. How can we help our children develop healthy ideas about what beauty truly is in the midst of this madness? Here are my ideas:
- Share books with them that feature characters from a variety of cultures and backgrounds.
- Watch movies that contain messages about moral character--and how beauty can radiate from within a person, no matter what their physical being looks like.
- Talk about character traits such as kindness, compassion and empathy and how these traits can make a person beautiful.
- Expose children to beauty in art, architecture, dance, theater, music, poetry and nature.
- Embrace your own beauty. Smile and laugh everyday, and realize that feeling joyful is beautiful.
- Limit exposure to magazines and television shows that glorify shallow and inhumane messages that objectify people.
Tuesday, March 11, 2014
Invite A Guest To Dinner!
I have a retro family challenge for you this week. It is a simple request. Invite a guest for dinner. Why am I writing about this in my parenting blog? Here's why! Inviting a guest to dinner is an excellent way to help develop your child's social and emotional learning. Children learn a great deal about socializing when they observe their parents in social settings. Turn your home into a social setting by inviting someone to dinner.
Having someone to dinner should be a team effort. Your child should help you straighten up the house, and could even have a vote in what dinner should be cooked and served. Your child could help buy the groceries and help prepare some of the meal. This opportunity allows allows you to teach your child about manners and polite conversation. And then he/she gets the opportunity to practice what you have taught when the guest arrives.
We recently attended a party where the hosts had their handsome and accomplished teenage son answering the door and taking everyone's coats. It was such a treat to see him and it warmed my heart that our friends had included him in their plans (even though he might have wished to be hanging out with his friends.) This was the type of social opportunity that too few of us embrace for our children.
Keep the dinner simple, as it is truly not what is important. The important thing is sharing hospitality and kindness with a guest for dinner. It is a wonderful family activity and benefits everyone involved. So start thinking of who might enjoy an evening meal at your house, and pick up that phone!
Tuesday, March 4, 2014
I am constantly puzzled by parents who think of their children as mini-adults. I see this idea reinforced when I see children receiving beauty services at salons, queuing up at Starbucks, dressed in adult themed Halloween costumes in preschool (like Lady Gaga), being worked out by personal trainers, and attending concerts to see performers that are not targeted to children.
Why can't we stop this madness and let children enjoy being children? Why can't we protect their childhood and revel in activities that they would enjoy more than "spa time" with mommy? "Spa time" is not about spending quality time with your child, it is about justifying what you want under the guise of time with your child.
Children like sledding and swimming and skating and playing on playgrounds. Children like when you read books to them, play board games or card games with them. Children like when you sit down and draw a picture or build a blanket fort, or play house or school. Children like when you cook with them, or take them to a museum or for train ride.
Why is modern culture so obsessed with treating little children like mini-adults? This only causes future problems. Stealing a childhood away to treat your child as a mini-adult only leads to children who grow up feeling bored and not too keen on what adulthood has to offer. They have already been there and done that. Don't make this mistake. Go to great lengths to protect your children from growing up too fast. Childhood is precious. Childhood is fleeting. And it is your job, as a parent to guard it for your child.
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