Children can be quite unlovable at times. They whine, complain, have temper tantrums, "forget" to do what we have told them a million times to do, and the list can go on and on. But when our children are frustrating us and we are feeling anything but love towards them, ironically they need our love the most. The more unlovable they are, the more they need our love and acceptance. They need to reconnect with us. They need us to reinforce the lesson that we love them no matter what; that as their parent, we are always present for them.
The best way to show a child of any age how much you love them, is by using physical touch. Children need the calming message a hug sends. They need to feel your love as you stroke their hair, or rub their back, or hold their hand. Don't get too busy to make the effort to connect with your child in this way. And take the time to learn what they like. Some children don't want their heads to be touched but love a hand or foot rub. And I can't think of anyone who doesn't like a loving hug. Make time to cuddle your children and reinforce the message of just how very much you love them.
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